From the pool to the zoo to the snow in the same week! My little Santa Baby loves her Moby now that she is big enough to face out
Our baby is two months old!
And I couldn’t be happier! Things have been getting better since 6 weeks (when colic is typically at it’s worst), just like my husband promised. Miss H is sleeping a solid 7 hours a night and taking a 3-4 hour nap during the day. She still LOVES her stroller, car-seat, and pacifier and also loves smiling at Daddy.
I have had numerous requests for another post about post-baby fitness. While I do not claim to be a fitness expert by any means, my passion for staying fit has many wondering what workouts are like now that I have a two month old. While things are certainly different, I have figured out ways to get my workouts in.
What I have learned by 2 months post-partum:
1) Invest in a jogging stroller: You want to make it impossible to make excuses for not having time to workout? Buy a jogging stroller.
2) Be flexible: I am a creature of habit and am known to have a pretty solid daily routine. I literally used to get up before 6AM, have a cup of coffee, run, lift weights, eat breakfast and then head off to work (whether that be a big girl job or just working around the house). It’s hard to remember what it was like to be able to roll out of bed, lace up and just head out the door.
Now my routine…isn’t a very consistent one to say the least. I am on “baby time” now. Some days we are up before 5 AM, and others after 8. Some mornings we just lay in bed together and cuddle and others we are out on our run as the sun rises. Before I can get out the door on our morning run I must…
1) Feed the baby (this usually takes 30 minutes since Miss H is a total grazer).
2) Drink my coffee & eat breakfast (breastfeeding basically makes me starving ALL day and I can’t pull off running on empty like I used to be able to…)
3) Pump the boob she didn’t eat for breakfast and sterilize my pump supplies
4) Get H dressed and in her car-seat certain not to forget a blanket, pacifier, and burp cloth
5) Get myself dressed (not forgetting to wear 2 sports-bras and my bamboobie breast pads)
6) Put her in the stroller and off we go
This entire process takes me over an hour. No seriously. So those mornings we have to be somewhere by 9AM I sort of just laugh.
3) Don’t forget to eat! If you are breastfeeding, you are already burning 500 extra calories a day. An hour of moderate cardiovascular exercise burns anywhere from 200-500 calories which means that half of my daily calories are burned from feeding my child and jogging with her in the stroller. P.S. I NEVER have this problem. I have literally never been so starving in my entire life and am constantly mentally planning my next snack and meal…
4) Accept a few extra pounds: A few weeks ago I felt determined to lose my “last 8 pounds”. So what did I do? I began to cut my calories by 500 a day, which equates to losing one pound per week (1 pound = 3500 calories). I thought this was a good, easy pace, but my milk supply thought otherwise. I noticed a drastic drop in my milk (like 5 ounces less in the AM) which really scared me. While every single one of our bodies are different, I know that mine needs that extra fat store to keep my milk levels up.
5) Use your time wisely: Today for instance my husband came home, and as much as I wanted to spend some time relaxing on the couch while he held the baby, what I NEEDED was a weight session at the gym. So before the baby could cry or “need” me, I asked my hubby for 45 minutes and was out the door before he could say no (which he just wouldn’t do).
6) Use your baby: No seriously. I use my little 11 pounds of pure cuteness to tone my arms and as extra weight when doing sit-ups or lunges. This is quality time people. Plus, I want her to grow up seeing me being active. I also want her to love her body and treat it well.
7) Set goals: This could be anything from aiming to workout 3 days a week, to training for a half marathon. It helps to set goals and work toward them. I personally do not do well with aimless workouts. I really like goals. Mine right now is to rock my bikini by the time H is 6 months old. I still have a LONG way to go, but this goal to feel confident in my bathing suit again motivates me day to day.
8) Find a buddy: I lucked out to have found a friend from the birth center who has a girl just 6 weeks older than H, who also likes to run. On days where we both are lacking motivation, we will meet up and run or walk for a few hours. The girls seem to have fun too! Even if you can’t physically work out with a friend, you can still hold each other accountable for your workouts via apps like Myfitnesspal.
Anyone else have any tips on working out post baby? I would LOVE to hear what is working for you!
As a first time mom, it’s really hard to know what you actually “need”. While I did my best to extensively research everything I put on our list of “must haves”, until Miss H actually arrived and starting “needing” things, I couldn’t really know what to expect. I guess it is less about “needing” and more about “liking”. How can you know what your baby will like and dislike before they are born?
Now that Hadley is 8 weeks old, I have a pretty good list of those things that have gotten us through some of the hardest times of our lives, and those that have hardly seen life outside the storage closet (thus far)…
COULDN’T live without:
1) My husband. Seriously, how do single moms do it? This man is not only my better half, but he is HANDS down the better parent. He is loving, playful and knows his stuff when it comes to our girl. He is better at getting her to sleep, changing her diaper, and making her smile. You may wonder if I am jealous, but honestly I couldn’t be happier at what a little Daddy’s girl we have. Melts my heart beyond comprehension.
See the way she looks at him?
2) WUBANUB pacifier. I have said it before, but I will say it again. This thing has saved me from complete and utter public embarrassment more times that one. When your baby has colic, it’s not the most pleasant experience to go ANYWHERE when they are awake (mostly for everyone around us). This thing actually stays in her mouth while my hands are full and really soothes her.
3) BOB stroller: I use this thing EVERY DAY. Sometimes multiple times. My kid loves it. I can go over the rocky terrain surrounding my house and it calms her like nothing else. Plus it gives me NO excuse to say I don’t have time for exercise… While the price tag on this thing is $400, it was worth every penny (that my mother-in-law spent)…Thanks Mom!
4) SleepSack: I am AWFUL at swaddling her with a normal blanket. One arm always seems to find it’s way out, defeating the entire purpose of being swaddled. While I am the only one who “needs” this, as my husband should probably change his profession to “professional baby swaddler”, it is vital in our home. I noticed how often Hadley was startling herself out of her sleep (picture dreaming you are falling) when she is not swaddled. Plus, she looks SO adorable in her personalized SleepSack.
5) Glider: I don’t know how we would live without this thing. Hadley falls asleep like MAGIC in this thing. It also has some great white noise sounds (that don’t make me feel like I am on some creepy carnival ride). I also love that it doesn’t swing, but rather gently rocks. She likes this WAY better than her swing.
6) Breast Pump and bottles: I was SO lucky to have a friend who is letting me borrow her medela pump. I really didn’t want to buy one and this one does a great job. It makes it possible for me to leave my baby for more than two hours! She also really likes the Tommee Tipee bottles. We had a few other kids and after one of the other brands leaked all in my beautiful leather-bottomed diaper bag I threw it away! These bottles nipple shape is more realistic and I wouldn’t buy anything else.
7) Bibs: And LOTS of them. I sure didn’t know H would have reflux.
8) Bamboobies: Yeah, that’s really what they are called. I initially bought these.
I quickly learned that they just weren’t gonna do the job. They bunched, leaked, and showed through my clothing. As if leaking boobs aren’t embarrassing enough! My good friend told me to go the reusable route and recommended this brand. While they aren’t cheap, they work amazingly and also don’t show under clothes!
Can Live Without (Thus far…)
1) Carriers: I must have spent 10 hours of my pregnancy researching baby carriers. I settled on the Moby and the Ergo and even mastered the intimidating Moby by 26 weeks pregnant. See post HERE where I show you how it’s done. It never crossed my mind that my baby may not LIKE to be strapped to my body. Every time I put her in this thing she screams bloody murder. Two times she has been okay for about 5 minutes…but once she realizes she is “trapped” she screams to no avail.
2) Her Nursery: H’s adorable little nursery sure hasn’t had much action since she has been born. I am pretty sure I spent more time in there before she was born, daydreaming about my sweet little girl. I know this will change of course, but it is funny how I rushed to make sure it was done far before her arrival.
3) Baby shoes: Gosh it is so effing cute to put shoes on a newborn. Clearly impractical but cute. Too bad H makes it virtually impossible to get her foot in a pair of baby tennis shoes. The only ones that work are soft fuzzy ones. We like those…but the sandals, flats and high tops are just too much work when she isn’t even touching the ground yet.
4) The Boppy: I know some people love these things and use them every-time they breastfeed. I on the other hand feed H in a “laid back” position due to her reflux and my overactive letdown, so don’t even use the thing. Maybe when she gets a little bigger I can lay her back in it and use it as a pillow, but for now, it’s back in the closet.
What is on your list of things you couldn’t live without? What did you think you needed, but your baby ended up hating?
The pumpkin patch with our little pumpkin:
What a fun quick trip to the little pumpkin patch near our home. I just couldn’t resist putting H in this little outfit from her Grandma and taking her to get her first pumpkin.
Hadley’s first trip to the cabin:
I was SO excited to show Hadley the cabin! We bought it in March, when I was 3 months pregnant and have looked forward to having her outside of the womb to enjoy it herself. The weather was so cool and beautiful and we enjoyed biking, morning walks, hot apple cider, and homemade autumn beef stew.
Fall actually exists in Arizona!
Tummy time with big sister
Daddy coloring with his girls
Just kickin’ it in her new little wintery outfit and boots!
We decorated the cabin for Christmas very early since we will only be up there one time before then and wanted to enjoy the decorations.
The pups always enjoy time at the cabin
I love this kid in a beanie
She actually fell asleep in the Moby! She usually despises this thing
Seeing the ducks on our morning walk
6 weeks until my due date versus 6 week old Hadley!
A few months ago, I did a post about what I want to teach my daughter. Click HERE for the link. Little did I know then, that my job isn’t just to show her the ways of the world, but for her to show me as well. After just a month home with H, I am realizing that it is she who has already taught me more than I could have imagined.
1) Babysitting can’t prepare you…
Being a mom is much harder than I expected. Because I have ALWAYS wanted a baby, always dreamed of being a mom, and had a fair share of baby experience throughout my life I assumed parenting would come pretty easily. I also assumed that she would sleep more, fuss less, and be happy in my arms…looks Miss H has taught me a lot already!
2) Stop and smell the roses:
I don’t think I truly understood that saying before having H. I have always been one to rush along, hurrying though my day from one thing to the next. Now, in the mornings, when she is lying in bed with me (after Daddy has ended his shift) I love watching her slowly wake up. She stretches, grunts, and accidentally smiles. Some mornings we lay in bed for a few hours and just cuddle. I never understood the real meaning of “stop and smell the roses” until I met my little H.
3) She is unique:
Hadley has showed me that no two babies are alike and what works for one, may not work for the other. This last month has been HARD as she gets used to this new world, and I get used to being a mom. With that said, I am FINALLY starting to understand her better these days and know what to expect from her. Key word, expect from HER, not from other babies her age.
For instance, when she throws a “fit” (uncontrollable crying) it is always because she is overly tired. It is never because she is hungry or has a dirty diaper. My husband discovered that if we swaddle her tight, give her the pacifier, and put her in the dark playroom in her swing, with the fan and the blue light, she falls asleep. Nothing else I have tried works. I still have yet to figure out how to get her to calm down OUTSIDE of the house…
I have also learned that she will only eat when she is hungry. When we have been in public and she gets fussy, I have tried to tame her with the boob, but she won’t have it. At least she isn’t an emotional eater like me
4) Never say never:
I also never thought I would use a pacifier, but with this kid, it is SO necessary. She fights it and acts like she doesn’t want it even when she does. Once she realizes how amazing it is, she is a happy girl. Buying a WubbaNub pacifier was the best $15 I have ever spent.
5) It’s okay to cry:
I also thought I would somehow get an “easy baby”. For those of you who don’t think they exist, they do. On a scale of “angel to colic”, (my own rating scale for a newborn) my husband (who has seen thousands and thousands of babies through their lives) gave H a 7. I think he is being a little lenient since she is his…Even HE thinks she is a bit tough and his job is dealing with screaming babies. But sometimes she cries and there is nothing I can do. So I have learned to just hold her and love her through the tears. Sometimes I cry, because it is so hard to see her so unhappy. But H is teaching me that sometimes it feels good to cry every once in a while.
6) No day is wasted:
Some days I have nothing to show for what I have “accomplished”. The laundry is still in the washer, dinner is half way prepared, and H and I are both covered in spit-up.
My good friend sent me this article and it really put my days into perspective.
“So what are you doing all day? Not much that can be measured, really. You’re simply responding appropriately and with patience (through fatigue), to smiles, to tears, to hunger cues, and to drowsiness, teaching your baby how to navigate this complex and (to a baby) highly emotional and raw world. You are keeping your baby clean, which on some days involves more costume changes (for both of you) than any non-mother can begin to fathom. You are teaching a tiny, helpless person all about the world—at least the important parts, like how we treat each other and what it means to be connected to a family. You are creating a foundation of love and trust between you and your baby, one that will help you set your parenting compass, inform your future interactions, and provide a basis for the way your child relates to the larger world. You may be breastfeeding your baby—another time consuming task (though once established, it takes less time than bottle feeding) that reaches forward through time to heal and protect your child, and simultaneously reducesyour risk of disease. Oh, and you’re becoming a mother. It started the day your baby was conceived, and it continues beyond birth. Your baby is stretching and growing into this new body, and you are too.
But that’s about it, really. That’s your day.
Our culture doesn’t have a good way to measure what you are accomplishing. Your baby will grow and meet milestones: check. But to the untrained eye most of this work, at the end of the day, will look like nothing.”
7) She just can’t show me yet:
For some reason, I thought all babies immediately loved their moms. It’s not that I don’t think H loves me, it’s just that I thought when she was crying and I held her, she would stop. That I would be the one who could always calm her, soothe her, and make her content. Turns out that this isn’t the case the majority of the time. Then I remind myself that she does love me but she just can’t show me yet. Soon she will smile, and laugh, and I will know that I am doing something right. Until then, I just remind myself that she just can’t show me yet.
And the list goes on, but that is all I had time to share today. H and I are both doing well these days especially with the help from my unbelievable husband. As you know he has a day job, yet takes H from 8PM until around 4AM every single night. When the evening rolls around he tells me to go to bed because it’s “he and Hadley time”. He also plays with her and gives her loves even when she is crying uncontrollably. He tells me that the crying doesn’t bother him. He never gets frustrated with her and upset about her being colicky. Instead he plays silly with her and almost always can get her to calm down. I think she senses his calm. She seriously LOVES her Daddy. I truly couldn’t have married a better man and this trying time is undoubtedly strengthening our love.
Sending love out to my blog friends! I am looking forward to posting more in the future….Because this too shall pass (but I most certainly am making sure to enjoy every little moment NOW). xoxoxo
Here is Hadley’s announcement
And look how much my big kids love her. How lucky am I?
We are headed to the cabin this weekend for the first time since H was born! I am so looking forward to showing her our favorite place! Pictures to come.